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Esther's avatar

Your new Substack bio made me smile, because it pretty much exactly describes me! You've put words to something I've struggled with for a long time, but not been able to pinpoint, that I am in fact, a person made up of so many contradictions, that I feel lost in them, searching for just a few things that are certain, but then I just find more contradictions. May we find peace in our contradictions, nothing is certain.

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

Beautifully put, Esther. I love the idea of making peace with your own contradictions.

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Liz Crowe's avatar

*please no one report me for typing this for this because in NO WAY do I take credit for these lyrics that sprang to my mind...

I stopped by the bar at 3 A.M.

To seek solace in a bottle or possibly a friend

And I woke up with a headache like my head against a board

Twice as cloudy as I'd been the night before

And I went in seeking clarity

There is a reason, and not just the catchy tune, that I can recite these lyrics every time they come on. And for why it resonated in the Barbie movie so perfectly. What was she, if not conflicted about her place in the world v. where she thought she should be?

And you have reiterated it nicely, between two things, on a Friday for me.

There's more than one answer to these questions

Pointing me in a crooked line

And the less I seek my source for some definitive

Closer I am to fine, yeah.

xoxo

Liz

(solar panels on the roof. fast fashion in the closet.)

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

I’ve almost used these lyrics here before! Pure gold.

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Sophie S.'s avatar

Love this, it's all about duality or complexity. We can't be just one thing. We are so many things all at once. And that's ok, that makes us human.

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Rachel Seidensticker's avatar

I love everything about this post and grateful to have found you. I relate to so much and the best way I can encapsulate my 40s (turning 47 this year) is simply the realization that I hate boxes. I refuse to be put in a box and I do everything not to put others in a box. No black & white and not even gray but instead I prefer to live in color! Thank you, thank you, thank you for pouring it all out there. Your honesty is a gift!

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

Yes, the shift from a "boxes mindset" to something more fluid changed my life!

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Tiffany Deluccia's avatar

So good! I feel this deeply. I get so annoyed by the reductionistic way we Americans label and brand everything—especially ourselves. No person can be "just one thing."

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

Well said.

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Lauren E K's avatar

yes! and how about the amazing gift of being able to see and feel it all? Found one for you: ☯️ (sorry lol)

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Jenna's avatar

I just turned 40 and didn’t know how much I needed to read something like this. Thank you 🙏…your words made me feel seen and less alone.

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

Same on just turning 40… what a doozy 🤪

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Natasha Israni's avatar

gosh, I love this soo sooo much, it's everything really. clarity is overrated. love your authenticity, everything, and everything really is the messy middle. I'll take honesty any day over the packaging we are all surrounded with. grateful for your words

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

🙏🏻

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Ginger Friesen's avatar

wow. just keep writing forever. please. and i really hope you can get lots of $$$ for this talent someday. xoxo

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No's avatar

Totally gave me permission. Love your style, too, thank you!

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Jeanine Kitchel's avatar

What a thoughtful introspective post. So many things here. I love how you had the ability to switch thoughts on, well, climate science! Just an aside--I absolutely loved The Overstory. Just picked up his new book. He's something. Thanks for this!

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Open Hearts Leadership's avatar

I doubt She will have a beard.

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Terri DeLoach's avatar

❤️

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Brian Monahan's avatar

My word for the year is congruent. My goal is to walk my talk and be an example. But you are telling me that I can have my Oreo’s?

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

This is really interesting to me. I think a lot about the word "integrated" in a similar way. I used to think being integrated meant everything lined up perfectly, values and habits and actions. Now I think admitting that they *can't* line up perfectly is part of the integration/honesty.

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Mike Armstrong's avatar

Ugh! Too much truth in this post. If not “clarity”, well then, what have I been striving for all these 67 years? 😂

Such a fun read. So relatable and thanks for the permission to laugh at myself a bit.

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

Thanks Mike. I'd go crazy if I took myself too seriously!

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William Pennington's avatar

God will definitely have a beard.

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Lindsey DeLoach Jones's avatar

But will there be ponies?!

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